Everyone pays “lip service” to change, but the fact is, when change happens people are unhappy, angry, even frightened.
As a counselor, I know that change, even when positive, is difficult. As I work with clients everyday, I realize their struggles to enact changes in their lives.
We are all creatures of comfort, predictability, and habit. When change happens, we are not in control and that’s what’s frightening for us.
But, we must realize that things change DAILY. Everything is ephemeral, nothing stays the same–we grow older, seasons change, children grow up, parents, partners, and pets die, leaders change, our financial circumstances evolve and all of us this takes place gradually, slowly, we’re not even aware of it.
As we incorporate change into political and social issues, people’s discontent with accomplished change is understandable. One of the failures of change is because we can’t agree on what “change” should look like. This is why the concept of “change” has failed. We have to visualize what it looks like, what it feels like, in every detail…and we must ALL agree upon it.
To have a shared vision, we must ask four simple questions:
1. What do you want?
2. What are you doing to do to get what you want?
3. Is it working?
4. If it’s not, change what you’re doing OR change what you want.
This is WHY “wholesale” change doesn’t work…we must have a clear and SHARED vision of what we want. Until we can agree on our VISION, change will be a contentious and combative issue. It’s time to unite, it’s time to come to the middle. It’s what I want so much. It’s what I work for each day.
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